Lingerie for those more Conservative

One goal I had when I started writing this little project was to open up new options for some people. Just broaden your horizons a little bit and be willing to try new things. It doesn't have to be something as dramatic as throwing your tongue deep inside your partner's ass, it can be something simple like today's topic: Lingerie. Now keep in mind this update will be my own opinion on the subject rather than facts, as well as what I believe is the way some things are perceived.

"men shop for lingerie like children buy cereal. the dont care what they buy. as long as they get the prize thats inside"
-Jeff Foxworthy.

In a sad way it's true of some people. Some see lingerie as a waste of money since you're going to take it off of her anyway, why waste 200$ on something you'll see for 30 seconds? If that were true then why would companies waste money making new, better looking underwear? We could all be wearing white granny panties with a boring beige bra. Why would Victoria's Secret spend millions on their fashion show every year?

Why would women care then? The way I always saw it, and ladies you're welcome to correct me, but it gives them some ounce of dignity left. I'm not saying being naked shames then but she doesn't fully uncover herself. It might be only psychological but having some clothes on (despite how small they are) lets her keep some aspect of control on her own body. The second she removes them she is bare, everything is uncovered for him to see, the lingerie allows her not only to keep that psychological boost knowing he wants what's underneath, but to make him work that much harder for it. I definately believe in the psychological aspect of it as one of the happiest days I've seen the missus is when she went to work wearing a bra+panties kit worth well over 200$. She didn't show anybody or even told anyone, but the idea that underneath the work uniform was something like that, something classy and desirable, but it boosted her morale as it made her feel, pardon the expression, like a million bucks.

Well, because some of us men really enjoy the look of lingerie and some women really enjoy wearing it. But why? why would I care what she's wearing? I'll start off with what you could call the cliché answer: Mystery.

I know what the missus looks like underneath everything, I have a pretty darn good mental image, yet the minute you put a pair of panties over her perfectly formed butt, or a bra on her perky and sensitive breasts, then I feel like they are a little out of reach, like I have to work for them. For that simple reason I do enjoy it when she keeps some of it on during sex. Maybe she keeps the skirt on during doggie style, or keeps her bra on while I go down on her, either way it keeps some mystery to it.

Now we move to more of an easthetic reason: it shows her off. Nothing puts a woman's best physically attractive traits into evidence like the right lingerie. I'm not talking about a push up bra to create cleavage or a thong that pops out of her jeans. I'm talking about something that embellishes a part of her which you already find attractive. Now I can't tell you what fabrics/pieces/styles go well on what because it all depends on the person and their preferences.

What I can give you are examples, of course once again from the missus. As I've mentionned a million times, and already once in this post, she has been gifted with a behind worth all the riches in the world. I mean a butt for which even the gods of the Pantheon would kneel down in amazement. Now as with most women, a thong looks great on her, the little string of fabric gives you a plentiful view but not much to the imagination. Now some people like that, as do I, but I much prefer a tight pair of bootyshorts/boyshorts. Those hug her curves and hold it up firmly, making it look even more bubblier than it is already. The tight, form-fitting shorts really do show it off under the best light without exposing everything right off the bat, it leaves something to be uncovered later on. From that point it could be lace, which it's smei-transparency enhances the whole mystery concept once more, or PVC for the real tight, leather look, or just sweats, for a mroe casual look.

Once again going with the Mystery idea, my favourite piece of lingerie is the corset. I've been known to spend quite a lot of dough on these due to my obsession with them. Once again not everyone likes corsets as they hide a lot of potential skin. The way I see them is it gives the missus a real victorian/classy look. Corsets do great to show off the breasts and hide anything you might feel is an imperfection (little tip: if you're dressing up in lingerie for your boyfriend, chances are he doesn't care about your "imperfections). Now with the corset, the boyshorts are not often the best choice as they tend to clash so most corset manufacturers bundle corsets with either matching material thongs, or skirts. The major problem with Boyshorts + Corsets combo is the fight for attention. They way boyshorts are designed, they grab the gaze and direct it towards what it's showing off: the butt. On the other hand corsets do the very same thing but with the chest. It's elegance and complexity fight off with the bottoms and you end up looking all over the place. With a thong though, it's much less fabric which shows off a lot more than on the top so it creates a really nice contrast between the almost-naked bottom, and the covered chest. The skirt though acts as almost an extension of the corset, often with the garter belt, to create the look of a one piece outfits where everything just works into each other. There's much less skin showing off, unless the corset has mesh, see through sides. Often with the skirt combo will the missus keep it on during the act, as both her and I enjoy the complexity of the outfit.

In a sub category of corsets are the bustiers, which, to be honest, aren't my thing. Along with cupless bras and crotchless panties I don't enjoy the lingerie that just show off everything right away. I see bustiers as a nice compliment to a bra and panties set (provided it matches), but not as a stand alone piece. In that case it looks more like a corset as it was originally designed in the Renaissance to slim a body down, rather than make it sexier. But I'm not one to discriminate against sexual preferences so if those are your department, then run wild.

Babydolls/nightgowns aren't as high on my list as corsets but nevertheless I made sure the missus owned a few for the occasion one of us would feel the need for it. Most babydolls are made of mostly see-through material so you forget the whole concept of mystery I built so hard to built up over the last few paragraphs. I look at it as more of a surprise before bed. Imagine you're getting ready to hit the hay and instead of coming out in her pj's and her bathrobe, your partner comes out wearing something almost completely see through over her body accompanied by a small thong. I'd call that a very nice surprise. She could come out in a corset yes but that would require more preparation (especially if it's a ribbon-tie). With the babydoll she just slide into it and is ready to go. I also see the babydoll as more of a romantic end to a night as compared to the corset. It could be something molded by Hollywood but after a romantic dinner and evening, you can easily imagine your lady slipping into one of these for you for a little romance and to "make love", as opposed to the corset which she would put on to "fuck your brains out".

As with my previous update regarding toys, after the main categories we fall down to the accessories. I'll go quickly through the obvious ones like stockings, which are in my opinion almost necessary in any kit that provides the garter belt for it. This one though I'll admit I can't explain why but even since the missus put them on the first time, I haven't been able to live without them. They add that extra dash of spicy to her outfit which always gets me going.
Shoes can be a very nice addition (mostly for those without the foot fetish). There is something to be said about the anticipation that rushes through you when you hear the clicks of heels as they get closer and closer. It's something primal and instinctive that just makes me wild. More often than not if she wears the shoes to turn me on, I'll have her keep them throughout the act.
Gloves are something I've been meaning to try but haven't had a chance to but the simple idea of it is enough. I do think it works either for the very classy look, or the very trashy fishnet look, nowhere in between really so keep that in mind.
There's plenty more of accessories that can be used but the rest fall more into the costume category which will be covered later on.

I feel at this point I should stop writing as most of these are preferences rather than facts, some points end up being harder to explain (such as my theory on women with lingerie) so I will bid you adieu until next week where I might be discussing watching porn with your partner.