Who ordered the large pizza...extra sausage?

Despite North American society still holding several stigmas with sex and it's various aspects, some of them seem to be slowly dissipating. Look back just a few years and oral sex was frowned upon, anal sex was immoral, toys were only for perverts and porn was only for those who couldn't get any. Now none of these held any truth but they just seemed accepted by the population. That's why people hid the fact that they had a vibrator in their desk by the bed, or girls would like about oral or anal to not seem "whorish". Now look at the state of things; oral is a pretty important part of sexual contacts, anal is growing in terms of couples of partake in it, and I have a blog about toys. What about porn? I remember having to hide the fact that I was watching it from my parents when I was younger. Now? Porn is the most profitable industry in America. Wait...the most profitable industry in America...why again are we hiding it then?

Well I guess the taboo is dissipating as well. People are less and less "ashamed" to admit they have X gigs of porn on their harddrive, or a dvd collection bigger than my own hollywood movie collection. And that's a damn good thing. Granted you will still have the über-conservative/religious parents who will do everything they possibly can to prevent their children knowing what breasts look like until they hit marriage. I personnaly respect their choices, just don't expect me to make the same decision with my children. Porn is a form of entertainement. It serves a purpose, provides pleasure, and it seems to help out the economy. So enjoy it. Enjoy it as much as you can. Especially you youngins who don't know what it's like to only have the 4 year old issue of Sports Illustrated Swimsuit edition, or have to sneak into your father's old stash of vintage playboy. You have it easy, so enjoy it.

Now that I've ranted I'd like to bring that topic into the realm of what I usually talk about. Have you watched porn with someone else? Have you ever sat down and put on a porno while in the company of your partner? Why not? If it arouses you both, have at it, watch it for a little bit, then go at it! Heck, you may even try something new from the flick. But here's a few things to keep in mind.

1) Type of Porn: There are hundreds of types of movies, from Anal to Zoo. It's important you establish the interests you share with your partner. If you bust out a triple penetration video and she gets grossed out by it, don't expect to end the film and find a very horny and willing girlfriend. Either talk to her about what she'd rather see, and don't fall in the trap of "oh she's a girl so she must like the softcore stuff", or if you would rather keep it a surprise, start off with something basic. A simple one guy, one girl scene, maybe costumes, regular "normal" porn. Then branch out from there.

2) Awkward silences: of course you won't talk the whole way through to video, but try to avoid having complete silence with both of you just watching for ten minutes. Nothing is stopping you from laughing at the horribly written storylines, or commenting on how such position is interesting and you'd like to try it with your partner. Make her feel involved in the experience as to not have her feel like you're watching porn and she just happens to be there.

3)When to make a move: Some will prefer to watch the video in it's entirety before getting down to business while some get so worked up watching it they want it right now. If you don't know which camp your partner falls in, go in lightly; start teasing her. Go gently for the nipples, or caress her thighs, just to let her know you are willing, ready, all she has to do is say the word.

Basically the important thing is to enjoy yourselves. Do something a little different, maybe have a laugh or two, and find an easy way to say "want to have sex?" by simply pressing play on the dvd player.